Letting go doesn't mean giving
up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.
Letting go is hard, especially when it's something
that you have no control of.
A friend
of mine (let's call her Lori) came to me with something that was troubling her.
...
"and then she just up and stopped being my friend."
"What
do you mean? Did she tell you she didn't want to be friends anymore?" I
asked.
"No."
Lori paused. "She has new friends now and doesn't return my calls, emails
and breaks engagements on short notice."
"Oh."
I thought about it for a minute. "Did you ask her about it? Maybe she's
going through a rough time."
"She
is and the kicker is that I have been there for her through it all. I've been
so supportive. It just hurts, you know?"
"I
know, sweetie, and I'm sorry you're going through such pain. But if she doesn't
want to be your friend anymore, the best thing you can do is to just let
go."
I hugged
my friend, Lori.
Have you
had this happen? I sure have. Friends have come and gone in my life. It's
painful and it sucks. My first instinct is to make things right in any
relationship, even if it is not my fault. I don't like conflict and I will try
anything to bring back peace.
The
reality is that when a relationship is over (whether it's on your end or
the other person's end), you've got to just let go and move on. It doesn't mean
that you stop loving that person. It doesn't mean that you're a failure. It
just means that the person is no longer in your inner circle.
Lori is
starting to let go and I'm glad. After time has passed, Lori will reflect on
the happy times with her friend and see the benefit of letting go.
Look deep into your heart
and ask yourself this question:
Have I let go of those
people who have hurt me?
Letting go doesn't mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.
MRS N
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